Boundaries
If there’s a book you need to read this year, it is boundaries. Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend is about learning how to have healthy boundaries in your relationships and with yourself. Reading this book had taught me to value myself and my time more.
“You need to evaluate the effects of setting boundaries and be responsible to other people, but that does not mean you should avoid setting boundaries because someone responds with hurt or anger. ”
The book is structured perfectly, starting with an example of a woman whose life is a mess, but she blames everyone around her for it instead of setting healthy boundaries. Chapter one explains what boundaries are and how a lack of boundaries can lead to a chaotic life.
“When a conflict with one significant person can bring us to despair, it is possible that we are too focused and dependent on that person to meet our needs.”
I enjoyed this book because the authors provided biblical references to back up their statements about boundaries. They emphasized that having boundaries is not selfish, but is necessary if we want to be wise stewards of our lives. Part 2 of the book is organized by boundary conflicts within your family, friendships, work, spouse, children, digital devices, children, God and yourself. If you have a pressing issue, I recommend skipping to the chapter that addresses your issue first, then going back to the beginning.
“When we are afraid to say no, our “yes” is compromised.”
This book has really helped me get a hold of my emotions because I carry the burden of problems that are not mine. This new year, I plan on implementing the things that I have learned from boundaries to have a more structured and peaceful life. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you, so set the standard and watch things fall in line.
“You are responsible for yourself, and I am responsible for myself.”
“Even with God’s help, however, it is crucial to understand that meeting our own needs is basically our job. We can’t wait passively for others to take care of us. ”
“Good relationships are build on the freedom to refuse and confront”
“When we say no to people and activities that are hurtful to us, we are protecting God’s investment. ”
If you want more control over your life then take charge and begin building healthy boundaries. Click the link below to order now.
